People seem stressed lately and I think it’s because they feel like things have gotten out of control. The reality is that things were never really as under control as we thought they were. We often live our lives under the“Illusion of Control” and all this does is cause stress and worry.
We often create unrealistic expectations of ourselves and the outcomes of life.Many people feel the unrealistic need to be everything to everybody or make sure everyone else is happy or successful. This is a perfect way to face disappointment in life as you realize that these results are out of your control –most are.
Way more things are beyond our control than we realize. The most control we really have is how we respond to the challenges we face.
• We can’t control how our kids turn out but we can control what we teach them and the life we model for them.
• We can’t control how our employees feel about life but we can control how we listen and respond to them.
• We can’t control a global pandemic but we can control whether we live in fear because of it.
Stress vs Pressure (Stress is bad – pressure is good.)
When we feel like we should be in control of something and we do not know what to do or how to fix it, we feel stress. When we realize what we cannot control and focus on things we truly can control, we move from a feeling of stress to the pressure to get it done.The illusion of control makes you feel like you are responsible to control all the variables of life, so when things go in a way you don’t want them to, you become stressed.
For me, I know that GOD has a plan for our lives and He is ultimately in control of everything. I take the knowledge of this truth and it allows me to move from a feeling of stress to the pressure to get moving so GOD can direct my steps. Mom always said “There are two things you are not allowed to worry about;
Things you can fix, and things you can’t fix.
– If you can fix them, do it now and focus on other things.
– If you cannot fix it, leave it in the hands of GOD and focus on other things.”
Remember also that worrying never added a single day to anyone’s life.
So today;
• Work on being the best version of you that you can be and the let the world do what they will do.
• Seek the knowledge you need to move from Stress to Pressure.
• Bring your issues and opportunities to our group and let others help you see what you CAN control and how to get things done.
Contact me if you need help with this.
Robert Hunt
The Accountability Guy